Tough Love ?

Have you been following the Richie Incognito story? If not, briefly, Incognito is an offensive lineman for the Miami Dolphins who has been accused of some serious “over the top” harassment of teammate and fellow lineman, Jonathon Martin. This case has raised national media coverage which is ongoing today and investigations to get at the truth are also ongoing. Below I’ve captured just a few news snipits dating back to early November…note Incognito’s reaction on Nov. 8th.

Updates from Friday, Nov. 8:

ESPN’s James Walker has the latest on Incognito’s point of view:
“It’s probably a combination of totally blindsided and a bit betrayed,” the source said of Incognito’s current state. “He’s shocked. He can’t believe this happened and thinks it probably could have been avoided.”

According to the source, Incognito viewed himself as a “tough-love older brother” to Martin. Incognito gave Martin a hard time but also was protective of the second-year player, the source said.

Jason Cole of National Football Post gives us more insight into Incognito’s personality:

According to two sources, suspended Dolphins guard Richie Incognito regularly held meetings for the team’s offensive linemen at a South Florida strip club, demanding that other linemen attend at the location. Incognito went so far as to “fine” teammates in an erstwhile kangaroo court if they did not show up.

“Richie wanted to set up Richie’s world as a way for everybody to act,” a team source said. “Richie thinks everybody should act that way. He doesn’t get that some guys aren’t into that behav-ior. Some guys don’t want to constantly explain to their wife or girlfriend why they have to go to a strip club.”

If players didn’t go, Incognito would mock them for not being part of the group, one of the sources said.

4:04 PM ET Thu, Nov 07
More troubling information about Incognito has been released. According to Ben Candea of Local 10 in Miami, the suspended Dolphins lineman harassed a women at a golf outing:
Miami Dolphins lineman Richie Incognito harassed a volunteer at the annual Fins Weekend Golf Tournament last year by touching her privates with a golf club and emptying a bottle of water in her face, according to a police report.

The alleged incident happened May 18, 2012, at the Turnberry Resort & Club.

The then 34-year-old volunteer told police that Incognito had been drinking, and when he was at the hole where she was working, he rubbed her privates with a golf club and knocked a pair of sunglasses off her head with it, according to the report.

Updates from Saturday, Nov. 16
Jason Cole of National Football Post reports two Dolphins players may speak out against Richie Incognito:

Two more Dolphins players are expected to tell an NFL-appointed investigator about behavior by suspended guard Richie Incognito that could be considered hostile, according to two sources.

The players do not want to be named for fear of further upsetting teammates who have publicly backed Incognito in the aftermath of teammate Jonathan Martin leaving the team. However, one of them may tell investigator Ted Wells of a threat of physical intimidation by Incognito. The other player may explain how Incognito requested relatively large sums of money from him for en-tertainment activities.

Icognito I realize is innocent until proven guilty and my purpose here is not to judge him…just to share what is possibly being uncovered. I also realize that the NFL locker room (team) culture is unique, yet I wonder how much of this culture has influenced manhood in our country, both inside and outside the church. You can Google many more articles on the Incognito – Martin story, but what I want to explore here in the weeks to come is; what is healthy manhood, as exemplified in the Biblical narrative and how does it contrast from the manhood images we see in our culture? Stay tuned and please feel free to offer your thoughts.



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